Thursday, 16 October 2014

Popularity...does it even matter?

Would you rather have a small group of close friends,
or
a large group of acquaintances ( casual friends)  ?

Now the real question is... Do you care about popularity? Will you go all out just to achieve it?

It seems to me that so many people these days value popularity above so many other important things.  Of course, being popular isn't a bad thing. But it can be... if you try too hard, if you erase your own personality just to be someone else. Or even worse, if you let the couple of close friends you initially had to drift away... just for the sake of being acquainted with a large group of people. That wouldn't be good, would it? It's not worth it. 



It's okay not to be liked by everyone. When it reaches the point in which you try so hard just to get people to like you, everything becomes fake...it comes across as a plead for attention. Close friendships you had with certain people will no longer be the same. 

Popularity really isn't that important. Think of it, a couple of years later, when you leave school...will all this matter? What you really need now is a couple of close friends. Genuine friends.... by that I mean people who are willing to stick with you through the thick and thins of your life. 


So next time you leave your close friends just to associate with more "popular people"... take a moment to be in your friends' shoe. Do you like what they're thinking of you? No. 

Thank you for reading:)
Comment if you have anything to say xx
June


124 comments:

  1. June this was an amazingly true post. Wow. I would definitely prefer having a small group of close friends, although I can be a pretty bad close friend at times. Thanks for posting this and showing me and everybody what truly matters. If only everyone would follow your advice.

    -M
    The Life of Little Me

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    1. Yup...I would rather have a small group of close friends too.
      Well, no one can ever be the " perfect" friend. And besides...you're not a bad friend at all ;)
      Thanks M:)

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  2. This was really well written :) I have a small group of close friends since Secondary school until now and I'm really glad that we are still very close. I've encountered those who have always wanted to have a large group of friends and at the end of day, they weren't even there for her when she need them. Thanks for sharing ^^

    Geralyn | http://zhixingeralyn.blogspot.com

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    1. The feeling of having no friends by your side when you need them sucks...:(
      Thank you for your meaningful comment Geralyn <3

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  3. I've been there it feels like crap when people do that just leave you there to go hang with "popular ones"...>_<
    that'll come later in my comics you'll see :)
    Another great post what's your secrete?? :P (y)
    I wish I was this sensible when I was 15-16 (makes me sound like an old man :P).

    Neal Kind
    Daily DIaries

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    1. Yes, i understand how that feels. Ohh I'll look out for your later comics :D
      Hahaha no secret;)
      How are you an old man? XD You're only 19 haha. Oh and you do post great stuff too;)
      Thanks for your comment Neal

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    2. the when I was 15-16 part does, my grandfather talks like that "When I was that age blah and blah" :P :P

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    3. Hahaha! I think all " parents" do that XD It's inevitable!

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  4. Wow! I would definitely rather have a group of close friends, than a large group of not so close friends!! This was an amazing post June, hit right on the nail! I wish I always remembered this! I think we as teens forget what it means to actually be popular, and that we shouldn't care what others think, but what God thinks of us! <3 loved this!!

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    1. Thank you Riarna:)
      Yes... Sometimes I've just got to remind myself of the fact that the're are better things to concentrate on at the moment.
      I totally agree, we should focus on being the type of person God wants us to be.:)

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  5. Beautiful post! I prefer a close group of friends rather than a large one. I particularly hate being noticed so the whole popularity thing is not for me and I do not seek it whatsoever. I try to do what I like and not giving too much thought about what other might think of me. Doing that is extremely exhausting, mentally speaking

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    1. I can totally relate to you. I'm not a person that likes attention either...
      Thank you Noelia for your comment <3

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  6. This is very true. We shouldn't hang the value of our lives on what friendships we have. I wasn't what you'd call a popular girl when I was young, but I could hang out with the popular girls and the misfits so to speak and they would both accept me. I had lots of friends in grade school. By the time I got to high school lots of them were gone. Not that they were bad friends or anything, we had just moved different directions with our lives and no one was willing to change their way to fit with the others any more. Now that I'm in college I still have several close friends, but what we call friendship now has changed so much. We don't hang out or talk all the time. In fact we don't talk much at all. By we all know if someone has a problem we can talk to the other about it. I think that's what's important.

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    1. Yes I agree...years go past, and people do change. As long as you still have each other:)
      Thank you Maddie for your comment:)

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  7. Great post June, I love your words! A close group of friends is the best choice!!!
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  8. I feel as if the urge to be "popular" in high school can lead to one very important lesson once you reach college. That lesson being the importance of networking. Networking brings about jobs, friendships, and heck maybe a friend of a friend who fixes your car for cheap someday. The pressures of being popular in high school can be a bit tough, but as an adult people genuinely become nicer. It's almost as if you get this clean slate to be whoever you want to be and networking helps that journey. Friendships are by far one of the most important things in our lives. With that being said, I have a few close friends whom I can confide in, as well as I can depend on. But there are also a great number of people, we can say acquaintances, that who would be there too even though I dont necessarily speak to them on a daily basis. In my eyes, both kinds or friendships are achievable. I mean who knows, your college science partner could end up being your boss one day? I think it's best to reach out, network, and be genuinely kind to everyone you meet. (:

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    1. Of course, having a wide range of friends can come across as being useful in the future. I totally agree with what you're saying, being genuinely kind to everyone is very important.:)
      My point is... I'd rather focus on close friends that I have than trying to go all out to get acquainted with people that don't necessarily care much about you.
      Thanks for such a meaningful comment xx made me think:)

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  9. You have reason hun, thanks for visit to my blog <3

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    1. Thank you Rebeca:) You're so welcome <3

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  10. Based from my experience, I would definitely agree that a small group of genuine friends wouldn't be able to surmount popularity. I was the captain of the pep squad in my high school, so yes I was "the" popular girl in school. But not only did I have no genuine friends but in a way this popularity almost made me a horrible person. I was just arrogant. Now in college, I am definitely more friendly. I didn't continue cheerleading in college, so now I have just 5 friends. And I definitely have more fun with these 5 compared to the entire school population from high school.

    The Reading Izzy

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    1. Thank you for sharing Izzy!:)
      It's okay to be popular as long as you treat everyone with respect and genuineness:)
      I'm so glad you have such wonderful close friends now!

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  11. nice post
    would you like to follow each other? :)
    i'll follow back after it

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    1. Haha no problem, I'll follow you.
      Thank you:D

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  12. I love how you said that people can value popularity above everything else, and one person I know who is "popular", is popular in their own sort of way. They are respected and valued by other people, but they stay true to who they are! Part of the reason they are their own kind of popular is because they treat others the way God wants us to treat others and never says a bad word behind someones back.
    Popularity should not be our goal in life, but we should respect everyone, even if they don't like us :)

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    1. Yes! There are those people who are popular because they have wonderful personality...:) And I'm sure everyone's popular in their own group of friends:)
      I agree, respecting everyone is so important...and they will respect you back:)
      Thank you Lauren

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  13. I agree with you 100%. In high school you see a lot of kids striving for popularity, but is not worth it at all. I sometimes don't understand why to leave your close friends for people who don't have anything in common with you. I had seen people who totally lie to themselves in order to be with the "cool guys" to me that will only guide to loneliness.

    Great post! :D
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    1. Yes... I agree with you Nicole. What's the point of trying so hard just to get popular? :/ Like you've mentioned... that will only lead to loneliness.
      Thank you for your comment <3

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  14. I have a small group of friends that as I've gotten older has naturally gotten even smaller. I prefer to have a few very strong friendships rather than a ton of people I barely know :)

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    1. Me too, strong friendships mean so much to me. Because they are the ones that will last as time goes on.
      Thank you for your comment:)

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  15. I'd rather have a small group of close besties, like I do now. Let me tell you-I wouldn't trade my friendship with my girlfriends for anything. I could never bear to give it up, even for popularity. :)

    Sophia.xo

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    1. Me neither hahaha!:D
      I'd throw away popularity anytime just to keep my close friends:)
      Thank you Sophia

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  16. Wonderful post! I know exactly what you mean. It won't matter later when you graduate whether or not ur popular. You will have true friends to stick by your side even when times get rough. Thank you for sharing! :-)
    ~Katie@ liliesofgrace.blogspot.com

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  17. Inspiring post! I totally agree with you... Id rather have few but true friends than any other popular groups who would leave you behind when things go bad. :)

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    1. Yes...I value true friends so much more than popularity.
      Thank you May!:)

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  18. Wow, very inspiring post and one that everyone should read when struggling through high school social life. I've always been one of the more popular students because I'm good at academics, but sometimes I feel overwhelmed by everyone trying to contact me. Since I switched to a new school in September, I find myself missing some really close friends I've been with for a long time.

    By the way, you're from Singapore! That's so awesome -- I was in Singapore in March and I was really blown away by how environmentally friendly it is. Coming from another prosperous but small city, Hong Kong, I really admire how conscientious Singaporeans are :D

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    1. Thank you for sharing Alyssa:)
      Yes... at the end of the day, it's the close friends you have that mean so much to you.
      Singapore is a beautiful place :D so is Hong Kong <3

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  19. Beautifully written post! It's taken me years to realize that it's not about how many friends I have, but the quality of the relationships I engage in. Thank you for the follow, I am your lovely blog's latest GFC follower. Hugs, T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much! :))
      Yes I totally agree with you. It's not about the number friends you have, it's about the quality of friendships you engage in.

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  20. I love this post! So very true. If you get a chance please check out my latest post! Great blog!
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    1. Thank you! :D Of course, I have a chance right now;)

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  21. What a great post idea! I have never valued popularity because I have always been considered un-cool. However many people who I thought were my friends have really preferred being popular to being friends with me.

    ~ Mint

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    1. I'm sure you're an amazing friend! :) You're " friends“ will sooner or later realize that you're the one who can give them the actual friendship they need:)
      Thank you Mint <3

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  22. I think both ^^

    I have a group of small friends and we've all been together for 7-10 years haha, but I guess in the business world it's always good to have many acquaintances too!


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    1. Having many acquaintances is not a bad thing:) as long as you still have your group of close friends stick by you...
      If I had to choose, I would value close friends over acquaintances. Because the friendship bond we've established won't be easily broken over the years.
      Thank you Emi:)

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  23. I would rather have a small group of close friends, but I wouldn't mind having a large group of casual friends either :)

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    1. Everyone has different opinions:)
      But casual friends come and go, true friendships are usually that ones that will last:)
      Thank you Maine <3

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  24. Thank for comment on blog
    I've already follow you
    Hope you can follow me back on GFC
    because before i don't see ur name on my followers list

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      I've already followed you a while back ago, my name's on the second page:)

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  25. Great post - I'd rather have a few close friends :)

    Lizzie's Daily Blog

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    1. Me too:)
      Thank you Elizabeth:)

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  26. Great post! I def rather have a smaller group true friends than a large group of acquaintances.I feel like if you have a small group of friend you are able to really spend time with them and give the you complete trust as-well as lend them a hand when needed. I find that acquaintances only reach out to you if they need something, instead of genuinely trying to get to know you.

    xoxo,
    -Maria

    www.paintedREDDD.blogspot.com

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    1. Yes... i feel the exact same way as you do. Sometimes it's hard to differentiate between who genuinely cares about you and who doesn't.
      Thank you so much Maria for your comment! :D

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  27. I prefer smaller groups of close, true friends... it makes me feel loved more than if I just have a bunch of random friends that couldn't care less if I sprain my ankle or my dog is limping.
    Love this post, love your blog.

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    1. Yes.. I can totally relate! I'd rather have a small group of friends that care rather and a large group of people that...haha couldn't care less .
      I love your blog too!:) Thank you <3

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  28. awesome post!

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  29. This post is on point! I enjoyed this one a lot.


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  30. Small group of close friends, definitely!

    Great post!

    Amy;
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    1. I think so too:) Thanks Amy ! ♥

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  31. Nice post

    New post in
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    1. Ok, I'll check it out right now:)

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  32. Nice post! Very good!

    Do you want to support each other and follow via GFC? :)

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    1. Thank you Anastasia! I would love to do that:)

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  33. That is so true, J! Sometimes I want popularity, but now I am beginning to realize popularity isn't everything and most people that have popularity have problems! Thanks so much for the reminder!
    In Christ Alone,
    ~Clara~

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    1. Yes same here.. It's so easy to get distracted by superficial things like that.
      Thank you so much Clara! ♥

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  34. Personally I don't think it matters - the people who matter are the people who stay, and to be who you are is more important anyway :)

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    1. Of course!:) Me too, I value that so much more than popularity too.
      Thank you for your comment Bea, I'll check out your giveaway ♥

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  35. WOW - I was just browsing through & stumbled upon your lovely blog - It looks gorgeous and it has interesting posts that I can relate to. I'm now following you via gfc, Hope you check out my blog & follow? keep in touch love x

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    1. Thank you Benish!:)
      I've already followed you.. a while ago:)

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  36. Thank you for your very nice comment ^^
    I´ll follow you back <3

    I exactly agree with your opinion. My school is the perfect place to see how the wish to constantly archiev popuarity destroys more than satisfies. I often see girls who leaves her real good friends behind just to get closer to the "popular kids" and it´s making me so sad. After all there is so much disappointment and hate.

    Love, Lily
    lily-couture.blogspot.de

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    1. Yea.. I understand:) It makes me sad too...
      Thank you so much Lily, your follow means so much to me! <3

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  37. Aww juney a fantastic post! a small group of friends is always the best!! Just like our group <3

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    1. Our group is fantastic! Especially since we have such wonderful people like you <3

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  38. "So next time you leave your close friends just to associate with more "popular people"... take a moment to be in your friends' shoe"
    :D

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    1. Haha thanks Nicole
      I just realised how funny that sentence sounds XD

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  39. I completely agree with you! Great post ^.^
    http://mishcheungx.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thank you so much Michelle! <3<3

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  40. We feel like popularity is such a big thing when it really isn't. Great post! x

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    1. Yes, I agree... it really doesn't mean much.
      Thank you Gail!:)

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  41. Love your blog! I just followed you on GFC and Bloglovin, would you please follow me back? :)

    Michaella from http://quitealooker.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thank you so much! I love your blog as well xx
      Followed you back <3

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  42. So true. A very common problem that most do not realise until they are left to fight their problems alone, once their popular "friends" have left.

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    1. Yup, I agree!
      Thank you for such meaningful comment:)

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  43. You´re absolutly right!
    xx
    Sarah

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  44. I can totally agree to this June "Popularity really isn't that important. Think of it, a couple of years later, when you leave school...will all this matter? What you really need now is a couple of close friends. Genuine friends" before I am literally obsessed of becoming a popular kid in school but as soon as time pass by.. I am now a 4th yr.. I know realized that becoming popular isn't a thing well.. its somewhat a part but it doesn't play a huge role.. maybe a half but at the end popularity will not lead you to anything if your brain is empty :) like that one beautiful and popular girl have you guys think that she's brainy or nah :)

    Great Post June !! totally relatable ! and connected with M's Second Choice !

    xx
    Molly
    http://www.corinnemolly.blogspot.com

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    1. Yes, exactly! They are so many other things more important than popularity, and those are the things we should focus more on.
      Thank you so much Molly <3
      I have read M's post:))

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  45. Lovely blog! Would you like to follow each other?
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    1. Hey:) Thank you so much!
      I'd love to follow you, I'll check out you Facebook page too:)

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  46. This is sooo true and so sad.Great post.
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      Thank you so much Andrea for visiting my blog! I'll check out yours now:)

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  48. Great points!! Followed you back :)

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      Visiting your blog right now!:)

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  50. Loved this post! I totaly see what you mean and i couldn't agree more! <3

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  51. Nice!
    Beautiful blog! :)

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      You have a beautiful blog as well:))

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  52. I totally agree with you, I have few real and close friends and I think that popularity doesn't matter at all. Moreover, I follow you via GFC as Iwona Zając and I hope that you'll follow me back ;)

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      Thank you so much, your follow means so much to me xx

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  53. Honestly I think you are right that it's not necessary that everbody likes you ... and I don't know if it's really a goal to be popular. Do those people all know how I'm really? I prefer it to have good relationship with really few people who know me really and appreciate me in the way I am.

    Thank you for your pleasant comment on my blog. Now I checked your blog with the result: I like it!

    I would like to follow you on gfc and/or bloglovin. It would be great if you come back to my blog to follow me – then I will follow you immediately back.

    xx from Germany/Bavaria, Rena

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      You're so welcome, thank you for visiting my blog:)
      I would love to follow you xx

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  54. Oh dear I'm twice your age and I couldn't have written a wiser post.
    Baci,
    Coco
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    1. Oh haha... I think I'm blushing :3
      Thank you! xx

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  55. Hi J, Loved this post..thought provoking..
    I love to socialize n meet new people, not for popularity..thats just me..
    I love being surrounded by friends, whom I know n whom I don't
    I dont try to please anyone and try my best to accept people who dont like me :0

    Ur new follower :)
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    1. Being sociable is such a great trait!:)) I agree, as long as the purpose behind it isn't for the sake of popularity or gaining attention.
      Thanks for such meaningful comment! Your follow means so much to me, I followed you back!

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  56. Wonderful post June :) nicely written :) Lovely..Keep In touch sweetie..hugs
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  57. What a great post! As someone who is nearing her thirties (me lol) I believe that it's better to have just a handful of really good friends versus a lot of acquaintances. Popularity doesn't really matter after high school at all and as you get older, you lose friends and the ones that matter will stick around. Again, love the post! Thank you so much for sharing!

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    1. Thank you so much for your lovely comment! Yes, a few close friends is definitely better than a bunch of acquaintances!:)

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  59. I prefer few friends but good ones, even if I like to meet new people and speak with eveybody.
    Cool reading
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    mari
    www.ilovegreeninspiration.com

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    1. Yes I agree!:)
      Meeting and speaking to everyone is also really important.
      Thank you xx

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  60. Great post :)
    Happy to connect. :D
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      I'll be happy to connect with you too:)

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