My attempts to write a meaningful blog
post for the past few weeks have failed. It usually ends up with me hopping
from one topic or another or just generating countless uncertainties.
So here I am,
writing something out from my own experiences. You might know different..or
even better. But this is just my personal point of view.
It wasn't too
hard to approach anyone. We would openly talk about feminine stuff like who and
who had their period
that week , menstrual cramps, etc... When it came to talking about boys, we
were pretty cool with it though most of us didn't have much experience. Most
conversations regarding that topic revolved around hot actors from blockbuster
movies or just guys we've never met before but heard lot's about. I don't
know if any of us craved for an actual relationship, but what I'm certain about
is that we definitely didn't physically show it.
I remember once after the social/dance , someone told
me, " Girls become mean to each other when guys come into the
scene.".
For some reason,
I considered boy girl relationships happening then slightly " odd". I
mean...how well will it work out if you don't see each other often. But
that was the least of our worries. After some "not so good' encounters, my really
close friend and I vowed that we wouldn't get ourselves involved in high school
relationships we weren't ready for.
It is a proven fact that girls
gossip a lot. I gossip. And friendship problems were caused mainly due to that.
We worry about not being able to fit in, not being able to be accepted by the
other girls. Oh yea.. and I think negative body images can sometimes come along with
that.
In general I loved my single gender school. It made me a more
confident person with much more self belief, not having to worry about
unnecessary stuff. Not only that, I think I've made some lifelong friends in
that all girls environment. :)
If any of you are reading this, the teddy bear that you guys gave me is well looked after <3
And then I move
into a new school .... and it's not single-sexed.
I see couples walking around the school hand in close embrace. I see guys and
girls talking to each other so close that it is at kissing distance. I see guys and girls texting
each other love hearts when they are obviously not in a relationship.
I know this is normal, but I feel awkward with all
this flirting going around.
But I must say, it's more
lively here. We have more interesting class discussions with both genders
expressing their opinions. Girls and guys don't necessarily agree on the same
thing, and that's what makes it fun.
It's been three months since
the move and I'm still worrying about which table to sit at lunch, who to talk
to in class, who I partner up to do projects, who I should just avoid totally ...
ahaha. It's been a frenzy...this whole transitioning in school. But I'm slowly
getting used to it, I'm slowly working my way around with guys.
Oh well.. I don't have any
other option do I?;)
Thank you for reading:)
Do comment if you have anything you want to say :)
Written with love.
June
I've always been in a co-ed school and when I find someone who's from single sexed school I find their views very much similar to yours.But they usually go crazy when they meet the creature of other sex and want to get into relationship as soon as they can. :P
ReplyDeleteHope you adjust well and find amazing friends :)
Neal Kind
Daily Diaries
Oh yes haha I can comprehend that... Oh well, I'll eventually get used to it.
DeleteThank you Neal:)
I used to be in a co-ed school and shifted to all girls college. You get the difference in the environment as soon as you start settling in. In all girls college, girls like in coed will definitely gossip and the cold wars are always present. But I found a very close group to hang out with, so my transition was cushioned by good people around me :)
ReplyDeleteLove,
Rashmi<3
from Lazygulrox
Haha you understand! You're really lucky:) I'm starting to settle in but it takes time:/
DeleteThank you <3
I've always gone to co-ed schools, and even in elementary school there was boy-girl drama. It's just something I've gotten used to. I think it can be healthy to be in a relationship when you're young, so you can learn how to act and how to connect in a real relationship, but sometimes kids take it over the top.
ReplyDeleteYeah you totally have a point there. Not being exposed to the opposite sex until later years of your life is pretty much a negative :/
DeleteThank you Ella x
I've never been to a single sex school, but I can't imagine going to one just because the idea makes me shudder. Putting such a big importance on gender repulses me, and it's not something I'd want to participate in myself. Also, when boys and girls work together and trade ideas I've seen some marvelous things happen, and so I don't think I'd want to sacrifice that for a total community of girls. You said that girls get mean when there are boys around, and I disagree—girls get mean when they are in groups. We're more balanced in a mixed community.
ReplyDeleteDifferent people have different views... and I do agree with yours. There are positives that come from being raised in a same gender environment, but negatives as well. It's the opinion that children will be " less distracted"and be able to make full use of their potentials in a single sex school that keeps them going on.
DeleteThank you for sharing your thoughts Heather!
Finally you've posted June!! You're so right about girls' schools and high school relationships and all of it. Honestly, since primary school going to a girls' school was so different (less interesting but good in a way?), and now it's become the norm, which I'm not sure is a good thing. Nowadays, with my job and outside activities where I do talk to guys, it's a little unfamiliar and that's something that definitely needs to be fixed. I think co-ed schools are better, but at the same time I wouldn't move if I were asked to.
ReplyDelete-M
The Life of Little Me
Yes!! It's been a lot time since I logged onto Blogger. It's great that you get to interact with different people outside school, especially since everything is so restricted in a girls school.
DeleteMe neither, if I could, I would stay as well :)
I'm home-schooled, so unfortunately there's not much advice I can offer up. I hope you have an amazing experience at your co-ed, though. <3
ReplyDeleteI've always envied people like you that are home- schooled!:) I wonder how it feels like to not worry about being late for school and countless assignments with strict due dates! Thank you so much Jordy <3
DeleteCo-ed schools are very lively. Sure, PDA can run extremely rampant at times, but it's nice to talk to guys as friends.
ReplyDeletexoxo Morning
Yes definitely:) It can be nice talking to guys.
DeleteI'm home-schooled, so I'm super shy around people, especially boys, but what I don't like is that: they will be talking about their girlfriend or about them breaking up and I'm like.....Okay..I want to be friends with boys like just friends, not a sweety kissy boyfriend, but the only teen boys I know of are friends with my older sisters so they don't notice me even if we have a lot in common.
ReplyDeleteI totally get how you feel! But sometimes it's difficult to comprehend pure friendship between a guy and girl. Oh well.. I'm sure you'll grow out of your shyness! I'm working on that too!:)
DeleteI've taught in both: boys are more boisterous but easier to understand, girls are way more complex.
ReplyDeleteLizzie Dripping
Haha girls are definitely more complex emotionally.:')
DeleteHello Dear! I really like your Blog. You have interesting Posts. Would you like to support each other and follow via Bloglovin and/or GFC? That would be so cool and i hope we stay in touch. :)
ReplyDeleteGreetings, Sophia xx
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Thank you:)
Deletethat is going to be a huge change from being in an all girls school to being in a coed environment. But I know that you will do just fine, it is going to be a huge adjustment but I know that you will do great.
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loving your blog dear.
I am now following you through Bloglovin & GFC.
❤❤ Nybel
Thank you so much xx I will eventually get there;)
DeleteI'm following your blog too now.
I go to a all-girl school. I used to go to a co-ed school. Totally agree, they both have there positives and negatives, but I am thankful for both experiences!
ReplyDeleteChiara xo
I should learn more from you;) and start appreciating everything.
DeleteThank you xx
I've always gone to schools with both genders. I'm pretty sure i've been around this type of environment since a really young age, 5 I think, and it becomes normal. Well as normal as being stuck in a building for 6 hours with at least 900 other insane students can get. But it does open your eyes to a lot of things, in debates you have the opportunity to get another point of view totally alternate to what a girl would think. And sometimes I do still get freaked out with all the lovey dovey mushy stuff that goes on in the corridors but hey If i squint and walk fast enough I can escape it . lol I'm kidding, it does somehow get normal. You'll be fine, wishing you the best of luck. Star Girl
ReplyDeleteHaha! How I envy you!:) It's gonna take some time for me to be as natural as you are.
DeleteI will hold on to all the new opportunities that come my way. Thank you!! <3
I have always been in a boy-girl school, but when I started high school, it was a whole new world! People making out in the hallways or just standing there clinging onto each other because they won't see each other for two periods. It's weird, but I just stay away from people like that, have most of my close friends as girls, and guys are also my friends just to talk about, like, Minecraft and stuff. Good luck! You'll get used to it very soon :)
ReplyDeleteAww J!
ReplyDeleteI feel ur pain!
Gah I'm such an awkward turtle
I promise Yku will be fine
Plus there could be a little more fun in a coed
Plus u still have use to talk to whenever you want :)